What’s YOUR story?

This book is amazing! (Photo: me)

I recently read a great book on storytelling called “Stories That Stick” by Kindra Hall. This book, as well as much of the other content she puts out, including her social media, videos and emails, has done wonders for my own creativity. Inspiration hits me at the strangest times lately. 

If you’ve known me for a while, you know I have a story—a pretty big story that, for better and for worse, has shaped me into the person I am today. I want to share that big story in a big way some day and while I thought last year that I was ready to tell it, I realized I’m not. So I’ll share nuggets along the way and Kindra Hall’s book will help me with that. 

When I was in the shower one recent morning, I was thinking about my story and how my life has evolved over the years. You don’t get to write the absolute beginning of your own story. Some of that’s written by your upbringing and we don’t have a choice in that at a young age. But at some point into adulthood, YOU are responsible for taking over the writing and changing the narrative. YOU! Not your parents, not your spouse, not your ex-boyfriend, not your children, not your employer, not your friends, not your teachers–YOU are responsible for your story. I hope that those other people in your life can contribute meaningful chapters to your story, but if they don’t, then YOU need to find a way to change it. Making those changes isn’t easy, but it can be done. 

Once we get to a certain point in life, our choices can change the narrative of our own big picture story. Of course, as I know well, sometimes circumstances change that are beyond our control. This happened to me and it was awful, but I learned from it and grew from it and changed my own narrative. When I think of where I am now versus where I was then, it gives me chills. It can be done, but it takes work and a willingness to lose the victim mentality. 

Stop hiding behind your story, the one you tell yourself over and over again, whether that story is that you aren’t good enough or that you can’t change your circumstances. If you are sick of hearing it, there’s a good chance others around you are sick of hearing it too. Grow and evolve—don’t stay stuck—and change your story. Acknowledging this and being willing to change it is an important part of moving forward in life!